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Building attraction is like building a house. If you want to build a house that is solid and stable, you must first lay the right foundation. This article will show you how to build attraction with women.

Boy meets girl … boy woos girl … boy and girl have sex: this is the natural flow of the seduction process. At any moment, however, this process could derail, causing attraction to die and intimacy to fail.

If you take a moment to analyze the seduction process in more detail, you will find that it can be divided into two distinct phases: the “first contact” and the “pursuit.”

Phase One: First Contact

At a basic level, the natural seduction process is easy to follow. All you have to do is meet a woman you like, build attraction, and then continue the relationship.

It should be noted, however, that just getting a girl’s number does not necessarily mean that the seduction will go on without resistance; on the contrary–having her number only allows you to feel out the ground and see if she is open to being seduced.

The moment you make contact with a woman is, therefore, the occasion when you can understand her openness to you, and whether or not she finds you attractive.

This is the point at which you begin to get an idea of her degree of attraction to you.

Keep in mind that at first not all women will feel the same way about you. As the saying goes, “30% will love you, 30% will find you pleasing, and 30% will be indifferent toward you.”

Phase Two: Pursuit

The second stage, which is to build attraction and elevate a woman’s desire for you, is the most important stage of the seduction process.

At this stage you are trying to seduce a woman and build attraction, while she is deciding whether or not she will allow you to seduce her. This is the time when a great deal of relationship problems occur, the point where most women pull away and become cold for no apparent reason.

This is where it is decided whether the attraction can progress or die.

At the beginning of the relationship, the man usually pursues the woman. This is the natural order of things, and you have to make sure you strike a delicate balance between chasing too much and showing the right amount of desire.

You need to be proactive and bold, but without appearing desperate.

At this point, if all goes well, the woman will begin to warm up and connect with you. Once you sense a change in her behavior, and notice that she is becoming more responsive to you, you need to back off and allow her to pursue you.

Building Attraction The Right Way

One of the biggest mistakes men make is to show themselves to be overly needy and desperate in the early stages of a relationship: bombarding women with texts and calls, and trying to convince them at all costs to “officially” commit to them.

Men who behave this way are afraid that if they wait too long, someone else will swoop in to steal their woman.

So they start trotting out the same trite phrases like, “I’ve never felt this way about a girl before” and “I think I could fall in love with you,” followed by the inevitable, “When are you free? Any time is good for me.”

And although these emotional expressions may appear romantic on the surface, in reality all they do is communicate weakness and desperation.

Remember that building attraction is exactly like building a house: if you want it to be solid and stable, you must first lay the right foundation.

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